The title of this Thought Partner is Put Yourself First.
For many of us, this concept may seem a bit foreign; often, we practice putting others first – our family, boss, work, pets, professional groups, etc…and when we’re done, we think about ourselves. Hopefully, that’s not you, but it might be. That doesn’t mean your priorities aren’t where they need to be, and it doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with that hierarchy. However, IF you want to examine what putting yourself first might look or feel like, check out these quick tips and see if you’re ready to try one this week.
Three Ways to Put Yourself First
1. Think about yourself – Most people think about what others think; think about what you think. Put yourself first by thinking about who you want to be, who you aspire to become, what is draining you of your energy, what is frustrating you, and how you want to address it.
2. Invest in yourself – Most people neglect their development and repeat behaviors that frustrate them and others. Invest in your future by investing in yourself. Reach out to people who do something you don’t like to do that they are better at, connect with a mentor, hire a coach, or do something from which you know you’ll grow and learn.
3. Manage your energy – Most people work too long and too hard. Manage your energy by taking breaks throughout the day – all your brain needs is 20 minutes to reset and restart. Get up, get a drink, step outside and your brain will reward you with more focus. Respect your best time – what part of the day do you have the most focus? Do the important stuff during those hours. Send a one-line text or email to someone letting them know they crossed your mind. That one gives more back to you than even them.
These three practices are selfless strategies that allow you to put yourself first while remaining engaged with and in service of others.
Remember, it’s impossible to give to others if you have nothing to give.
Give to yourself so you can continue to give to others.
